Posts from the ‘Emotional’ Category

Prayer to Those Passed and Those Left Behind

There are few pains in life deeper than the loss of a loved one. This pain, in my experience, holds a deeper sting when the loss is suffered in violence, when the loss is a brother or sister with whom you have trained and served in righteous conflict against a common enemy.

 I wanted to share with those who have served and lost, those who support those who serve and have lost and all fellow Americans so that we might stand together in support of our loved ones who’s challenges are often unknown and unknowable, and sometimes unfathomable. Take the time today to say thank you to our service members, both foreign and domestic, and their families.

Here is an amazing song and video, I’ll let Edwin McCain tell the story and say the words in the way only he can. You can follow the lyrics I’ve included below, thanks to

Let them in, Peter
For they are very tired
Give them couches where the angels sleep
And light those fires
Let them wake whole again
To brand new dawns
Fired by the sun
Not war-times bloody guns
May their peace be deep
Remember where the broken bodies lie
God knows how young they were
To have to die

You know God knows how young they were
To have to die

Give them things they like
Let them make some noise
Give dance hall bands not golden harps
To these our boys
Let them love Peter
For they’ve had no time
They should have bird songs and trees
And hills to climb
The taste of summer
And a ripened pear
And girls as sweet as meadow wind
And flowing hair
And tell them how they are missed
But say not to fear
It’s gonna be all right
With us down here

Let them in, Peter
For they are very tired
Give them couches where the angels sleep
And light those fires
Let them wake whole again
To brand new dawns
Fired by the sun
Not war-times bloody guns
May their peace be deep
Remember where the broken bodies lie
God knows how young they were
To have to die

You know God knows how young they were
To have to die

And tell them how they are missed
But say not to fear
It’s gonna be all right
With us down here

It’s gonna be all right
With us down here

God Bless, and remember; “It’s gonna be all right with us down here,” for one day (hopefully a long time from now) we will be reunited for they are only lost for a season. Joe H


Kindred Spirit

We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience.Pierre Tielhard De Chardin

This will be the first of my posts describing an awesome experience my family and I shared this past November, 2011. We found an organization, A Child’s Hope Foundation, with whom we traveled to Baja California, Mexico and helped with their mission to support orphanages there.

We were able to do this over the Thanksgiving break. My wife Linda, and our boys; Cody 17, Cameron 13, and A.J. 9, served with 60 other men, women and children from the USA, Including Paul and Carolene Cook , the founders of the organization and their daughter Megan. (Please read their story here!) The picture to the right is Megan on our mission, with one of her “kindred.”

The whole experience was overwhelmingly positive. The work they are doing is important, valuable and mentally, emotionally and spiritually rewarding… and, on a selfish note, I lost seven pounds from the physical labor too!

We worked in an orphanage, Buena Vida in a small valley city, La Mision (only one “s”) between Rosarito and Ensenada. 

Being a Parent is like being a rock star! –Joe Hamilton.

It’s true, as a father I’ve come home and had my children lose their minds! “Daddy, daddy, daddy’s home!” They make me feel better than the Stones on their return tour at the Colosseum in LA!

The children of Buena Vida treated us the same way. They accepted us as family, immediately, and without question!

I was most struck by the fact that certain children attached themselves to each and every one of us, as if we were returning after a long period of absence. I couldn’t help but think of Pierre De Chardin’s quote at the beginning of this post.

I can’t find an adequate description for this part of the experience, it was so powerful. The phrase “kindred spirit” came to mind;

kindred: “a group of persons related to another; family, tribe or race.”

Spirit: “the soul regarded as separating from the body at death.”

My “kindred spirit” was little six year old Mia. I affectionately “nick named” her “Mia, Mi amore!” The only explanation I can find for her connection to me, as a person, is that we are “kindred,” even family in “spirit” not just separated from our bodies at death but most certainly united with our human tabernacle/body at birth. I know in my heart and soul (spirit) that we, mia and I,  were certainly spirit family before our temporal existence here, only to be reunited on earth last November.

Certainly we are all spiritual brothers and sisters here together, kindred spirits having a human experience.

It is my hope and prayer that this small effort on my part will encourage you to serve your kindred, wherever they may be on earth. I hope also that you will consider A Child’s Hope Foundation as a vehicle for that service!

Here are a few more of the 100’s of pictures Linda took on our trip. I’ve included these few in keeping with today’s “Kindred Spirit” topic.

A Big ‘Ol Pile of Horse Manure

No, I’m not going to talk about the current political campaigns… EVER! Rather I’d like to comment on positive versus negative thinking.

A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.  —Winston Churchill

This quote was taken from a book Linda’s reading on her Kindle,  Brett Blumenthal’s 52 Small Changes: One Year to a Happier, Healthier You. I immediately loved this quote, as opposed to the age old, half empty versus half full cup. But to beat all, (even Churchill?) I would like to share a scientific study with you:

Behavioral scientists studied two eight year old boys, one was reported by his parents, peers and teachers, as being extremely pessimistic, the second was said to be an incurable optimist.

The pessimistic boy was placed in a room full of toys, the optimist in a room full of horse manure. That’s right, manure, muck, dung, compost, fertilizer, droppings, stinky, smelly Horse s@#t! Or for scientific journals “Equine Defecation.”

Four hours later, the learned scientists looked in on the pessimist and found him sitting, head bowed and held in his hands with a sour look on his face among the toys. His inactivity and sour demeanor prompted the following exchange:

Scientist: What are you doing?

Pessimist: Nothing.

Scientist: But why? Why not throw the football or baseball?

Pessimist: I’ll break something!

Scientist: oh, uh, well why not ride the bike?

Pessimist: I’ll fall and hurt myself!

Scientist: Well you could read a book, watch the TV, or play one of the Video games!

Pessimist: Books are boring, TV will hurt my eyes and video games will turn my brain to mush.

After taking a few notes, the scientist went to the room with the optimistic boy and horse manure. They found him covered in manure, running up and down the mountain of muck, gathering it in his hands and throwing it up in the air while  dancing and singing! The Q and A period was much shorter in this room;

Scientist: What are you doing!

The optimistic boy answered without taking a second to stop what he was doing: Are you kidding? With all this horse poop there’s got to be a pony in here somewhere!!

Okay, maybe not better than Churchill, but hopefully made you smile! Have a dung filled day!  And don’t forget; “there’s got to be a pony in there somewhere!” Joe H

Please check back tomorrow, I hope to tell a little more about the Casa Hogar (Orphanage) experience in Mexico (see yesterdays video, under Computers Sex and Nuclear Energy) and share some pictures. Thanks, Joe H

P.S.! Did you know that the spelling for the words defecation, and deification are only off by two letters! I’m serious! Check the links on each word and think of that next time someone places some Hollywood God/Goddess, Singer, Sports Star, Blogger etc. on a pedestal! Hey, I’m just say’en!

Computers, Sex and Nuclear Energy

What do these seemingly disparate subjects have in common?

Computers, Sex, and Nuclear Energy, each has the power to create, each has the power to destroy. Joe Hamilton –Peakaboomer, January 2012

Wow! Pretty heavy no? Fear not, I won’t bore you with a verbose philosophical, moral, spiritual, political rant. If you’re asking why in the name of peak performance I would come to make such a statement, the answer is simple. At least in my wandering, ADD riddled brain. My intention this morning (Tuesday, January 10, 2012) was to CREATE an informative and motivating post with a video about a recent service project my family and I went on in Mexico. Alas my computer had a different plan! It (my computer) hasn’t necessarily DESTROYED  my plans but you may see this post and video later today… or maybe even Wednesday the 11th, as I sit here writing this I’m honestly not sure yet!

On a serious note, I’m curious what your thoughts are on my quote, please do comment! When I said this I was thinking in serious terms:

COMPUTERS can create a myriad of opportunities in education, employment and more, or it can destroy via gambling, pornography and other all too popular websites.

SEX can create a temple (body) for a new spirit sent to a family from Heaven itself, or it can destroy the same family if conducted outside of marital bonds.

NUCLEAR ENERGY can create power for the use of entire cities, or it can destroy the same cities if applied in the form of a weapon of mass destruction.

Well there you are. Hopefully we’ll go out and create all things positive, with the many tools God has given us in these modern times. If I’ve met my goal for today’s “creation” you should be able to watch a video (above) showing the boys and girls of Casa Hogar (literally; House Home) Buena Vida (Good Life) In La Mision, Baja California, Mexico. Linda (see about page under peakaboomer tittle) created this video from pictures she shot while we (Linda and I, Cameron, Cody, and A.J.) served there. The music is a great track, I won’t let go, from Rascal Flatts’ album, Nothing Like This. If the video is not here when you visit, don’t worry I won’t let the computer demons win! I WILL PERSIST, I WILL SUCCEED  Have a great day, night, week… (I still don’t know when my computer will let me post this!) Joe H

P.S. A special thanks to my friend Pete Greene for motivating me to volunteer and serve! And to Linda for finding A Child’s Hope Foundation, a great organization with whom to volunteer and serve.

Putting Resolve in Resolution

Three Solid Suggestions for Success in Your New Year’s Resolutions:

1. Choose Excellence. Whatever you’ve chosen as your New Year’s resolution(s), choose first to excel at every little thing that will get you closer to that goal(s).

2. Focus: Be in the moment, every moment, not just physically, but mentally and emotionally as well. Start today. Challenge yourself to listen intently to every conversation, comprehend fully what you read, watch and hear.

3. Repeat: Excellence will NEVER be a destination. Every day we seek perfection. Every day we fall short. That’s earth life, welcome aboard! The trick is to “meet with Triumph and Disaster And treat those two impostors just the same,”only to greet the next day with the same hunger for excellence you had on the first day of your journey.

Repeat: Focus is much harder (at least for me) than it may sound. When you find yourself truly “in the moment” physically, mentally, emotionally; ask yourself  “does this conversation, book, article, video, music, popular media, propel me closer to my chosen resolution? Yes? Consider being in that moment spiritually as well, dig in, and find ways to immediately apply whatever that moment may have offered! No? Run like Joseph from Potiphar’s wife! Whether by accident or design, your being distracted from your chosen resolution! Refuse to be distracted!


In Pursuit of Excellence: How to Win in Sport and Life Through Mental Training, by Terry Orlick, PhD. An outstanding text divided into four parts: Envisioning, Preparing the Mind for, Building Toward, and Realizing Excellence. I’m currently reading this and it was the inspiration for this morning’s post.

The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles, by Steven Pressfield. Mr. Pressfield also has an outstanding e-book, titled: Do The Work, I’ve read both and can highly recommend them! These are some of the best writings I’ve ever read on defeating distraction, and improving focus! You can find other tips and techniques on his interesting website here. 

Have a great day, choose excellence, stay focused and repeat! Joe H

The Five People You Hang Out With

Someone once told me “you are the five people you hang out with.” This was probably a parent and as a parent today I certainly think this is a valuable statement to make to the young men and young women we are raising. Looking back on the varied (I’ve been blessed/cursed with a great deal of variety in my life) “seasons” of my life I can testify with confidence that this is a true statement. The things I listened to, the books I read, the conversations I had, the thoughts, and ultimately the actions I took were all influenced tremendously by those individuals with whom I spent the most of my time. Fortunately I feel that I owe most of them a debt of gratitude.

As I get older (everyone wants to get older, but no one wants to age) I’ve taken this five person idea a step further and realized what I really want as a father is for my sons to be the kind of young men OTHER parents want their kids to hang out with. Of course this is a bit tougher than trying to manage the kids’ core group of friends, but in the end probably more worthwhile. My hope and prayer is that somewhere some parent is encouraging their child to “hang out with that Hamilton kid.”

As for myself my goal is to live up to Emersons’ quote on influence:

The best effect of fine persons is felt after we have left their presence.

In other words, it’s my constant hope and prayer that I might be the best I can be by leaving an effect that motivates in a positive direction, long after I’m gone. For one final thought, fitting since this Sunday will mark 11 years since my Dad’s passing, my dad used to repeat the first stanza of  this little poem to me, also concerning influence and parenting sons:

A careful man I want to be;
A little fellow follows me.
I do not dare to go astray
For fear he’ll go the self same way.

I cannot once escape his eyes,
Whate’er he sees me do, he tries.
Like me he says he’s going to be;
The little chap who follows me.

He thinks that I’m so very fine,
Believes in every word of mine.
The base in me he must not see;
The little chap who follows me.

I must remember as I go
Through summer’s sun and winter’s snow,
I’m building for the years to be;
The little chap who follows me.

Please comment with any poems, quotes, books etc. you can recommend on parenting, influence, peers, peer pressure, etc.

Have a great day! Joe H

Information Overload!

I know, I know I got off to a flying start and then… nothing! I apologize for the long delay in posting here. I’m committed to at least putting something up each day, with breaks on the weekend! Hmmm, does that sound like a new year’s resolution!? At any rate HAPPY NEW YEAR! May the Lord bless each and every one of you with everything you may stand in need of!

While considering,researching and ultimately writing for this venue, my mind has frequently wandered. I’ve spent hours pondering a myriad of ideas. One that keeps popping up, is the idea that there are so many great things to write about! Yet, I find this to be the proverbial “double edged sword.” Although we are in the midst of a wondrous information age, a time to love life, seak learning, and soak up as much good information as you possibly can, I often wonder; “how can I best spend my time reading, researching and learning? What is the cost of consuming all this information?”  So I want to share a quote with you that I found in Tim Ferriss’ The Four Hour Work Week

What Information consumes is rather obvious: it consumes the attention of its recipients. Hence, a wealth of information creates a poverty of attention and a need to allocate that attention efficiently among the overabundance of information sources that might consume it. 

Tim Ferriss attributes this outstanding  quote to Herbert Simon and opens the book’s sixth chapter, The Low-Information Diet: Cultivating Selective Ignorance, with it. This one chapter is worth the cost of the entire book by the way! I think I’ll re-read it myself. After all, if what Mr. Simon says is correct and “a wealth of information creates a poverty of attention,” what will that do to a neophyte blogger with Attention DEFICIT Disorder!? The answer? Well… stay tuned! Oh, and again Happy New Year!